It can be hard to move past a relationship , but acknowledging the "next" is essential for progress. Giving yourself permission to process the grief is important , but don't dwell in the former times . https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N4FBtGP7zSs&list=OLAK5uy_kaqfjK_D00GAl1qeI8R1YmIE36j-RCLho&index=1